Detente: The one thing that is stopping you from making the changes you want.

It takes raw courage to face the fact that you are imprisoned by a host of things you have agreed to do that you are not supposed to do. 

Your flesh says that not doing these things will bring dire consequences.  Let me show you how living in détente is the dire consequence and that you will never know the cost you are paying for your current  life until you are set free. Sadly, we wait for crisis to bring about needed changes.  It is a happy day when we learn to change before crisis forces it. It is an even happier day when we learn to make the changes that matter.

Take the following steps:

1. Know the difference between the important and the expedient:  1 Corinthians 10: 23 says, “all things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but not all things edify.” There are a lot of things that need to be done but not all of them need to be done right now.  The only way to know the difference between the expedient (what must be done right away) and the important (good things to do later) is to get alone and quiet your spirit.  You must be in contact with God through prayer and you must have a plan.  God will give you eyes to see distractions and your plan is the map to keep you on course and help you to measure your progress.

2. Once you have chosen a course of action avoid multitasking.  Multitasking is the most overrated work style today. I keep a small erasable black board right by my computer to remind me of what I am doing! The temptation to read and respond to emails, faxes, phone calls are always there.  Now is not the time to deal with those things.  Trying to do it all at once damages the quality of your work and delays everything. Do not be afraid to let people know that you are unavailable. Focus on what you know needs to be done and do not stop until it is done.

3. Relationships matter and business deals can wait.  If you see family and friends as something that you will get to later you are in trouble.  If you make relationships a priority, God will make sure the deal will still be there.  On the other hand what will you do if you lose your family and the deal?

4. Convictions matter short term gains do not.   Our culture says, “If you fudge and take a short cut with the truth who will get hurt or If you agree to partner with a shady character for a quick advantage, who will know?” Mess with your moral compass you will give off the scent that you cannot be trusted.  You will never develop the confidence of others so necessary for true success.  Excellence will elude you because excellent people will avoid you.

5. Get rid of the  false victory of Detente.  It is the French who coined the term détente, the worst counterfeit for victory in all of history.  Détente means “loosened crossbow strings.”  It is the polar opposite of Teddy Roosevelt’s advice to “speak softly and carry a big stick.”  Ancient Israel doubled the number of wars she had to face because of détente.  Each time that Israel settled for an alliance instead of victory she invited terror in her midst. Détente in the life of a believer means peaceful coexistence with Satan.  This is seen in teachings that diminish, ignore or deny the existence of the devil.  Détente means that you quarantine sin and destructive habits instead of abandoning them.  Détente is a nervous pact with darkness that permits you to appear spiritual while still in its pocket.  This subtle covenant with the enemy rears its ugly head anytime that its victim attempts to make real progress as a Christian. Détente believes you can serve two masters, but in all such amalgamations evil takes the upper hand.  The prisoner of détente will never progress until they declare war on Satan and possess the hatred for all things evil that is in the heart of God. Total victory is taking ground from enemy and never giving it back.